Inspired by the Tyra Show today. If you have sex you could get pregnant. If you get pregnant, you will most likely have a baby.
Come on young ladies. Please, please be serious with yourself. Are you REALLY mature enough to have sex? Do you REALLY know the chain of events sex can lead to? Pregnancy, STDs, they ARE possibilities. Stop thinking that it can't happen to you. You have the same internal organs as any other woman who has gotten pregnant or contracted an STD.
My little sister got pregnant at 17. When I asked her about the time she had sex that resulted in my precious niece she said they just didn't have a condom. She also commented that it was weird when she went to the bathroom afterward cause all this "stuff" was coming out of her. She didn't know what sperm was. She didn't know what sperm was, but she was having sex.
I am sure she is NOT the only one completely oblivious to all the mechanics before she started "doing the deed."
Non-comprehensive sex education: 0; Comprehensive sex education: 1
(in this case, our school system has a good sex ed program, she was just skipping health class
. And don't say it was because she wasn't taught abstinence because we came from the same family, and you folks know where I stand on that...no ring, no ding-a-ling)
So. Hey mother, your teen daughter is pregnant. Now what? When a teen gets pregnant it is a failure on somebody's part. The girl is by no means a failure for life, but that situation is an EPIC FAIL. When a teen gets pregnant it is a sour situation. Now, of course you don't want to just disown your daughter, so you want to take that sour lemon and make lemonade. The key here is not to use too much sugar. That situation is anything but sweet. Make sure your daughter knows you are happy to have that little bundle of joy, but she still made a bad decision.
No, I'm not a mother, but I am an aunt to a little girl with a teenage mom. A teen mom that is not equipped to take care of a precious little bundle of joy. Don't coddle your teen mother/daughter! She now needs to GROW UP.
MAKE here take responsibility for that child. A baby is a gift, yes, but a teen pregnancy situation is not, and in order for your daughter to really understand and learn from her mistake you can't coddle the situation, looking through rose colored glasses while you have baby showers, and pick up cribs. If the teen thinks that in the end, she didn't do anything wrong, she hasn't learned, and she won't grow up.
I saw three girls playing double dutch today and it made me smile. I don't see that very often any more. Young girls have gone from turning rope to turning tricks, from hopscotch to club-hopping, and from trying to show how big their brain is to bragging about the good head they give. It makes me happy to see young girls just being young girls.
Oh. And teen boys. You need to take responsibility as well. Don't just assume she is on birth control, or that she is taking it correctly. You can only have control if you take the precautions from your end as well.
ABSTINENCE. FTGW (for the GREATER win).