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Give me a gift suggestion, QUICK

Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:03:14 GMT

Goood morning lovely Xangamigos. I need your help. We do a "Pollyanna" at work, which somehow is what "Secret Santa" translates to in Pennsylvania lol. I need to choose 3 gifts that cost $25 or below for my Secret Santa to get me. I don't want to be lame-o and put down giftcards from three different places but I'm at a lost for what I want! Please leave your cool $25 or below gifts in the comment box lol.

Happy Monday!

Personal sins shouldn't require press releases

Sat, 05 Dec 2009 20:35:01 GMT

In a press release Tiger Woods stated "personal sins should not require press releases and problems within a family shouldn't have to mean public confessions."

This was in response to the overwhelming sentiment from the public and the media that he had to talk about the whole golf club to the back window - running into a fire hydrant -cheating accusation, incident.

I'd have to agree with Tiger on this. Personal/familial transgressions and problems shouldn't have to be talked about to feed the public's hunger for knowing everything about a celebrity or politician. A cheating spouse shouldn't be a public issue - it is between the married couple and their family- nor should it cause someone to lose endorsements (unless the endorser is something like a marriage counseling organization or something similar) or force them to step down from political office. Infidelity/adultery is a serious issue, but not something that should have to be made public when it doesn't affect the populace.

Now there is a line between what should be private and public for celebrities and public figures but I'm not sure where it lies. In the recent child molestation allegations surfacing about R & B singer Pleasure P, I feel like that is something that should be made public. I think the difference to me in this case is that child molestation is a crime, one of those crimes held at the highest of people's criminal hierarchy. I'm not sure if that is fair, but that's how I feel.

My public vs. private criteria:

Private: A politician cheats on his wife
Public: A politician cheats on his wife and writes off traveling expenses to his mistress as state spending

Private: A celeb has a car accident
Public: A celeb has a car accident and a dead body was found in their trunk after the accident

Yes, public figures put themselves in the public eye, but they are human like everybody else.

What love is

Fri, 04 Dec 2009 21:17:06 GMT

Love takes no account

If you do things out of love, do them purely in the name of love. Don't feign to do for love, but really do in anticipation of reward. Love keeps no tally, no ledger of what's given and received.

1 Corinthians 13, verse 4 & 5:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

The gay marriage debate - my confusion

Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:46:04 GMT

Thanks to Striemmy for posting THIS post, which reminded me I wanted to pose these questions.

Every time I read something about the gay marriage debate I don't think I'm ever truly grasping what the debate is specifically about. In my head things seem simpler than they must be. My question is if we give same sex couples something that isn't called a "marriage" but has identical rights as "marriage" does that solve the problem? As a Christian I understand the stance on marriage being a church ordained union, a holy commitment between a man-woman-and God that was not extended to homosexuals in the Bible. I can see how this justifies for some not giving same sex couples a biblical marriage. But on a state level (and aren't church and state suppose to be separate?) any American citizen should have the right to a union that comes with rights equal to that of a marriage.

Another question I have is do same sex couples want not only the right to marry, but the term "marriage" as well, or is it enough to earn the rights and have the union called something else? It seems simple enough to me that all people are endowed with the same rights as American citizens, so couples, same sex, opposite sex, or no sex, should be allowed some type of union, by right. If the semantics are so important that we religious need to hold onto the word "marriage" as something of "ours" then is calling it something else a solution. The anti-gay marriage groups are out to "protect the sanctity of marriage." So, leaving the word marriage out of the question, but still protecting the rights given by the constitution, can we just call it something else and everyone be happy?

I don't get it. I don't understand how anyone could be o.k. with denying someone a right. I don't understand why this isn't a simpler situation, or why its even a situation or debate at all. We can't use the bible to take away someone's rights, it doesn't make sense.

I think 30 years from now people are gonna look back and think this was all unneeded hooplah.

Many of my Christian brothers and sisters will read this and scowl at me through their computer screens. But, I'm reading the same Bible as you, and as a Christian, I'm right there with you... but as a citizen of the United States, equal rights are what have been fought for since the first groups hoped into boats and into the ocean away from the king and queen (and kidnapped some other people along the way).

What if 50 years from now Christians were the minority, and the majority felt that we shouldn't have the right to worship? Denying rights of groups of people now, sets a precedent that I don't think we want to start.

Please don't defriend/unsub me! I'm just trying to make sense of all the nonsense. I've asked questions, so I'm sure people will have responses. Open forum, here we go...

Failure

Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:23:48 GMT

There is something to be said about the times you do all you can, and still fail. That is a true test of personality, a true test of heart. When there is more that you can do, it's easy to have the "shoulda, coulda, woulda's" but when you've done all you can and you fail, what do you do? They always say that failure is never trying, but what about when you try hard, to no avail? It's a hard pill to swallow, a failure out of your control. You can say "Well, there was nothing more I can do," but that doesn't ease the heartache of failure.

How do you deal with failure out of your control?

It's my job

Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:03:31 GMT

It's my job as a wife to make sacrifices for my husband
It's my job as a marketing coordinator to do all the things that others ask of me but could easily do themselves
It's my job as an actress to find a comfortability to playing romantically opposite another woman
It's my job as a volunteer member of multiple organizations to take time from my day and complete tasks for free
It's my job as Christian to focus on what I can do for other people, even when I get nothing in return
My jobs are killing me, but I love them all...

A woman of many hats.

The War in Afghanistan

Tue, 01 Dec 2009 16:14:39 GMT

In your opinion, when do we win the war? What needs to take place for a 'win' ?

Should movies have happy endings?

Mon, 30 Nov 2009 00:55:07 GMT

A lot of the criticism I'm hearing about Lee Daniel's Precious is that it was too sad or too dark or too emotionally intense. The way I see it, Precious was REAL. It showed one of the ugliest sides of life; some people used that to characterize it as a bad movie.

I think this stems from our need for movies to have happy endings, for good characters to be redeemed and for bad characters to be punished. We seek out movie entertainment for things to go "right," unlike our lives where things happen that aren't always fair.

It can be argued that entertainment should just entertain and make us feel good, but I admire a story where filmmakers don't feel the need to wrap everything up in a neat little bow before the credits. Some people live happily ever after, others sadly don't.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Tue, 24 Nov 2009 19:42:55 GMT

I saw my mother die
Saw her take a drink from a cup that looked like all the others but there must have been a cyanide twist because she never woke up again
That morning when I shook her but she never woke up was the morning I fell in love with women
I searched from that day on for a mother
But then again I didn't have a father either
All I had was a grandmother who liked to forget I was half black because she hated the niggers
I'm the most tragic of all the mulattoes because I never found myself
But a bullet found me and took me to where I wished I was from the day I lost my mother
Dead
I saw myself die

And no one said a word
She was everybody's favorite bisexual
Many had longed to kiss her but lips stayed pursed because they were all told to "stop snitching"

The t-shirts and memorial myspace pages do nothing to show how beautiful she really was
How her smile could brighten any room
How she never showed her sadness on the outside

Her smile
So wide that if that cheeba wrapped in a vanilla Dutch had hit her you could barely see her eyes
Squinty
I could always tell when she was high

And now she's high
Unless she visits me in dreams
Tricks my mind into believing she's back
Answering all the questions I've always wanted to ask

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The words in italics are obviously not mine since I am alive. Those are her words as I interpret them, and then my words, as I feel them-about her.

The Lure of Twitter

Tue, 24 Nov 2009 02:31:11 GMT

Something I've come to realize about what makes Twitter a special little place on the interweb is the convergence of celebrities and us "regular people."

There has always been celeb websites but never before have we been given the allusion of actually knowing a celebrity, being privy to when, what and where they are eating, their first thoughts when they wake up, and their last thoughts before they go to bed.

It makes our day to be able to @mention or RT (retweet them). Even a person not very consumed with celebrity culture will get excited to "follow" their favorite author or politician.

Twitter: where everyone can know someone "important."

I'm cool, so follow me.

Start your anti-Twitter rhetoric in 5..4..3..2.....